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Is Your Message Flat

written by Maggie Sale Ostara, PhD

Working at HomeIs your message flat?  It probably is if you are trying to focus on just the words of it.  Now of course the words do matter, and next week I will share with you about the words part.  😉  This week I’m going to share with you about everything else, which is actually MOST of it!

If you are focusing just on the words of your message, you are being too mental about it.  Messaging needs to be emotional in order to be effective.  Words certainly contribute to that, but that’s not all that it is.  Your message needs to touch you first, and then someone else.  So many people try to get their “elevator speech” or what they say about themselves just right.  Just the right words.  Just the right number of words.  Just the right phrasing.  They don’t trust their ability to improv, to be relaxed, and allow their message to flow.

So they over plan it – and that leads it to being flat.  Flat because it’s canned, it’s too prepared, it’s just too perfect without any life to it.  You know what I mean?  Have you heard people sound that way, or have you done that yourself.

If you have – you are SO not alone!

Now, why would you or anyone do that? 

Because it’s safer that way.

You have probably heard that 80% of communication is non-verbal.  So think about that for a moment.  Eighty percent.  That’s a lot.  I mean way more than half.  Most of communication is body language, tonality, facial expression and your energy or your vibration.  Only 1/5 is your actual words.  So if you focus mostly on the words and don’t focus on everything else you are unlikely to hit the mark.

Even more, you may not even be aware of the primary message you are sending out.  Kind of a scary idea, isn’t it? 

Did you know that when you speak or write your message, you transmit your underlying energy and beliefs, often without your conscious intention and sometimes without your knowledge.  And this can include fear of visibility, exposure, rejection, ridicule or even punishment.  I know that sounds really strong, but that’s actually what’s going on underneath the surface for many people.  Is that true for you?

Because if it is, then you can be sending out a double message:  Come here, go away, come here, go away.  Your words say I am here to serve, your energy says don’t talk to me.  And people listening to you don’t even know why, they just get the message to walk away.  Your “message,” meaning your words, may come across as flat because you’re trying your best, and trying to manage the riot that’s going on deep inside, and to do that you have to push a whole bunch of stuff down deep.  So deep you may not even know it’s there.

You need to become aware of the message you are already, and probably unconsciously, giving out.  Because if you are not getting the results that you truly want, if people are not lining up to work with you, if you don’t have the number of clients or are making the amount of money you want, it has to do with your message.  And probably the message you are giving out that you may not be aware of. 

The good news is that with awareness comes new choices.  Notice how you feel when you are talking with people.  Notice how they respond to you.  Notice how alive or flat you feel.  Notice whatever else you feel, what energy you are experiencing, your attitude and tonality.  Because that is actually most of your message.

When you express yourself from the Soul Level, when your message is Soul-inspired, you will be lively, magnetic, engaging, and people will want to hear what you have to say.  Yes, because of the words, but mostly because you are fully connected to yourself, your purpose, your reason for being in business, and the contribution you want to make to the world.  Then you will never fall flat.

Maggie Sale Ostara, PhD left her prestigious job as the Director of Women’s a Gender Studies at Columbia University when she realized she’s not built to work for anyone else. Since then, Dr. Ostara has become a Certified Human Design Specialist (Level 4), a Certified Clarity Breathwork Practitioner, a highly sought after teacher-mentor, who teaches high-achieving women how to develop their personal sovereignty, to activate their super powers, and to unleash themselves from society’s prescription of success.

She’s the creator of the Soul Signature Self Awareness Project, the Wheel of Power of the Visionary Entrepreneur, and over 20 educational programs focused building soul-inspired businesses that positively impact the world and taking command of your life through personal sovereignty. She’s hosted 5 multi-speaker online conferences, and spoken on over 15 such conferences reaching audiences of over 200,000 participants.

With two decades of experience supporting 20,000+ students and hundreds of clients through her online programs and conferences, Dr. Ostara teaches how to avoid overwhelm and burnout, how to make reliable decisions, how to create a bigger impact with less effort, and how to transform inner liabilities into powerful assets and allies.