Yesterday I was speaking with a prospective client and she said:
“Unfortunately all these things are coming up!” I stopped her before she could continue, “Wait,” I said, “wait because I want to acknowledge the power and potency of what you just said.” You see I know that when things are “coming up” that there’s a gift in the trigger—if you know how to look for it.
“Brilliant! That’s not unfortunate, that’s right on time. It’s coming up, not to get in your way—which is what your logical mind says. It’s coming up because it’s on its way OUT, as we say in Clarity Breathwork®. Provided that, and this is important, you are paying attention to what’s coming and not either believing it or suppressing it.”
Let me be more specific.
This particular individual was making a decision about whether or not to move with private coaching with me. We were discussing her situation, and she made the statement with which I began: “Unfortunately all these things are coming up!” In her life she is committing to a significant upleveling of her business that would create increased visibility, responsibility, and monthly expenses.
The “obvious” concern was the dollars and cents increase on all levels. Money appears to be the driver and the issue in almost every business situation. And it’s also a culturally acceptable “excuse” to not do something: “I don’t have the money,” or “I can’t afford it,” are statements that most people will go into agreement with. That’s because it matches their money story. Interesting, huh?
At first I was taken in by the concern about over extending financially, but my intuition kicked in, particular when she named her triggers: “all these things are coming up.” I knew it was about something else. So we dove in.
And what emerged was truly beautiful. What was really at stake was not the monetary investment. It was the underlying belief that she didn’t have the inner Light she needed to shine fully in her life and in her business. As soon as she identified it, a powerful shift occurred. A shift so profound that she could see and feel layers upon layers of ways she’s been standing in the way of her own success.
Not that she’s “to blame.” That’s not the point. Blame has been made wrong and dangerous by our legalistic culture.
It’s so that she can see the affect of how not believing in herself had been—until that moment—controlling her from deep inside her subconscious mind.
Certainly her growing up situation conditioned her into thinking and believing this way—absolutely. But what she really got as we were talking was the way in which she was carrying out that conditioning—without anyone else’s prodding at this point.
The Gift of the Trigger now that we followed it down to the root, was the awareness of her own repetition of this story—I have no Light, and the fear of her Light and the attention it would bring—and how it was undermining every step and every strategy in her business. And the FREEDOM that came as a result of perceiving that story and making a new decision to act from a new place. That’s the true gift.
Without the triggers, you can’t know what’s working deep inside you.
Once you experience the triggers and follow them, you can release yourself from the past, come more fully into the present, so you can command the future. What I’ve found is that all the strategy in the world won’t help if deep inside you are undermining your own success—and pretty much all of us do that either habitually or at some point.
I know that as we work together that we now have a basis for true success—because we see and know what’s likely to get in the way, and how to address it immediately.
Every one of us has triggers and patterns, including you and me!
The triggers are gifts that reveal the patterns so that you can stop acting habitually and unconsciously, and instead make new decisions and take new actions that lead to new results.
What are some of the patterns you have identified in yourself and you’ve been able to shift? What triggers have been your greatest gifts? Go ahead and comment in the box below. Let’s celebrate your gifts!